Each time we encounter our own failings or those of someone else, we can learn something. When we choose to refrain from judging someone, that doesn’t mean we turn around and offer blind trust. We need to read situations, and make wise decisions. Refraining from judging and offering forgiveness doesn’t mean we deny reality and put ourselves in unsafe or unhealthy situations…It does mean that we watch what we say about it to others, we monitor our thoughts about the person involved, and we nip resentment in the bud by remembering our own need for mercy.